Have you ever stopped to consider just how essential butter is to our daily lives? Other spreads like cream cheese might try to claim the spotlight, but butter remains the undisputed king of the kitchen for many across the globe. Its cultural importance is so deeply rooted that it has flavored our language just as much as our food. Whether its common daily phrases or obscure historical sayings, butter not only enriches our food, but our conversations.

Bread and Butter
Your โbread and butterโ is your main or only source of income. Itโs how you pay your rent and basic bills. Itโs your primary occupation or the main aspects of that job. There was also a time when to butter your bread meant securing a decent living. Bread and butter can be both positive and somewhat negative. Sometimes, we use the expression bread and butter to mean a dull, tedious, and unrewarding job. A factory worker on an assembly line might say, โItโs bread and butter work.โ The main product that your company makes, the one that earns most of the profits, is your bread and butter product. It may also refer to common or everyday things.
The expression even found its way into boxing to describe a boxerโs main punch or combo: His bread and butter punch is the right hook. Bread and butter, similarly, can be used to describe the main and most important components of anything.
There is an older saying: โDonโt quarrel with your bread and butter.โ It means donโt give up the way you earn your living. What we call today a โthank-you noteโ might once have been called a bread-and-butter letter, which is a letter written to thank someone for their hospitality. This usage occurred in America around the end of the 1800s.
We already know that bread is one of the most important foods in all of history. And bread has thus found its way into countless expressions and superstitions.
Know Which Side Your Bread is Buttered On
The buttered side of the bread is the good side. We only butter bread on one side, so one side is always better than the other. To know what side your bread is buttered on then, means to know what is good for you.
If you โbite the hand that feeds you,โ then you do not know what side your bread is buttered on. If you are rude to the people who can help you advance, then likewise, you do not know which side your bread is buttered on. This means we canโt have our cake and eat it too, which leads us to the related expression.
Want Your Bread Buttered on Both Sides
If you want your bread buttered on both sides, you want more than a person should reasonably expect to have. So, if you butter your bread on both sides, you are burning the candle at both ends, and may be doing too much, and living too fast, etc.
At the same time, the expression might refer to someone who lives in opulent surroundings, or who has a lot of wealth: โHe has his bread buttered on both sides,โ might be said of someone who lives in a palace filled with servants, marble, and expensive furniture.
Butter Someone Up
If a person has their bread buttered on both sides, you might want to butter them up to gain their favor, and hopefully some kind of advantage. To butter someone up is to flatter them excessively. When you are a real kiss-up, you might โlay it on thick.โ
Buttering someone up always has the connotation of being insincere and done solely in the hopes of getting what you want. When you want to land a big contract, you might have to butter them up to get them to agree.
A related Yiddish expression is to schmear, which means either to flatter or to bribe. Thereโs that cream cheese again!
Butter Wouldnโt Melt In His Mouth
Usually, a brown-noser who butters up important people will appear as if butter wouldn’t melt in their mouth. This is an old idiom that refers to someone who looks innocent and as if they would never do anything wrong.
Butter usually melts in your hand, let alone your mouth, so a person like this always appears calm and in control, and perhaps, self-satisfied, like the cat that ate the canary. This person might look quite gentle and innocent, but looks are deceiving. If you have watched the TV show Cold Justice, youโve seen people in interrogations about whom we might say, butter wouldnโt melt in their mouth.
Of course, we usually donโt put butter in our mouths without first smearing it on something.
Butter to Butter is No Relish
This means exactly what it seems to mean. Butter is something we use to elevate something more basic and substantial. We donโt put butter on butter!
A much older Scottish version of this saying is butter to butterโs nae kitchen. A basic Gaelic version is butter to butter is neither food nor kitchen. This expression seems to have been used to refer to two women dancing together, or kissing each other. Bread to bread was used in the same way.
Butterfingers
To call someone butterfingers means they often drop things they are holding or carrying as if their fingers are greasy and objects just slip right out of their hands.
We often think of this as a modern expression, but it has actually been around since the 1800s, where it was at first exclusive to cricket and baseball (at least as far as we know). Dickens used the term butterfingers to describe a clumsy cricket player in The Pickwick Papers (1837).
Undoubtedly, there are more butter expressions I have yet to uncover!
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